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“There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, and the most successful ones are between people who regard themselves as individual, independent entities, rather than someone else’s appendage.” Sally Brompton
When we are being ourselves and doing what we love to do, we lose track of time and we are happy. Is it not happiness we are looking for? Time does not fly when you’re having fun, it stops. This state of loving who we are and what we are doing is the nucleus of free Will, peace, love, and creativity. Through our own natural cycles and the feelings they trigger, we can recognize who we really are and what we really want.
Who we are and what we want determine the personality of our Will, which may be very different to the personality we present to the world. Often, we are so busy trying to “create” personalities which we hope will live up to the expectations of others, and doing things we don’t even enjoy, that we have precious little time for attaining our real desires. We imagine that love comes from our relationships with other people, and we often fail to realize that love must be given in order to be experienced, and that love has many different forms.
If you are unhappy with yourself and with what you are doing in life, you will reflect your dissatisfaction to those you love. Then you will suspect that the relationship itself is the reason you are unhappy. So much true love is lost because people believe they are no longer free when they are in a relationship. In fact, the first thing we seem to do when love enters our lives is to place rules upon it and chains around it. But when two people love and trust each other and remain free and independent individuals, they reflect their personal satisfaction back to each other – and the love thrives. This is as true of relationships with children, relatives, and friends, as it is with our romantic partners.
Some people are afraid of love. They believe that love hurts. But this is not true. Love is incapable of inflicting pain. It is the loss of love that hurts so much. And it is our fear of this loss which causes us to hold on to love too tightly so that it cannot move freely between the people involved. And that is where guilt enters the situation and begins its slow and deceptive process of tearing love apart.


If only i knew what to do… 🙁

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About Anh Nguyen

Anh Nguyen is a Los Angeles based freelance photographer. Over the past six years, he has covered various concerts, movie premieres, red carpets, parties, and events. A southern California native, Anh attended UCLA and holds a Bachelor's degree in Philosophy and a minor in Accounting. In addition to photography, he is currently pursuing his license as a CPA and hopes to go law school. Adding to his many interests, Anh also loves to cook and has worked as a line cook for Food Network's celebrity chef Scott Conant's restaurant, Scarpetta, in Beverly Hills.